Happy Sunday! I’m back currently with a post all about self-love, and how I became to love myself.
A teacher asked her students to list off everything that they loved. One by one the students swiftly began scribbling down their list, stopping to think and then picking up their pins to add another item to their lengthy list. When they were done one at a time they stood in front of the class blissfully reciting their list. They talked about their pets, and their parents, siblings, and their favorite meals, even their teacher. The one thing they forgot to write down was themselves.
Self love is such a straightforward concept, but yet so many individuals struggle with it daily. Why is simply loving yourself so complicated?
It took me a very long time to love the person I see everyday in the mirror, some days I wake up and I might feel differently but most days I truly am in love with the women I see. I do not have the ultimate formula, and unfortunately there is no step by step guide either. Here are some tips I followed to realize my self-worth.
BE MINDFUL OF YOUR BODY
When it comes to your body, you should treat it like a temple. You’ve probably heard this before but it’s the honest truth. I’m sure you know the feeling of feeling sluggish and gross after stuffing your self with candy and junk food. I used to know this feeling to well, when I ate a bunch of junk and I would lay in bed all day I would feel gross and I had such low energy all day. Currently I don’t always eat the healthiest but I make sure I add green food to my meals, I snack on fruit.
I took a nutrition class and became knowledgable about what food would give me energy and make me feel good. Get active! Take up an exercise you’re actually going to stick to one that’s fun, that way it won’t feel like exercise. Start to cherish your body for what it can do, the way your immune system kicks in when you are sick, and how your legs are strong enough to hold you up as you go though out your day.
“I said to my body. softly. ‘i want to be your friend.’ it took a long breath. and replied ‘i have been waiting my whole life for this.”-Nayyirah Waheed
COMMEND & PRAISE YOURSELF
Don’t wait for someone to do it for you. Applaud yourself for every little thing you do, no matter how insignificant it might be. Be proud of your accomplishments just like you would be of a friend or a significant other. Build yourself up instead of tearing yourself down. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.
BE SOFT AND PATIENT
Be gentle with yourself, if you had a rough day try not to be down on yourself. Discover how you can improve tomorrow and make it a better day.
“Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow.” ― Mary Anne Radmacher
BE AWARE OF YOUR THOUGHTS & PATTERNS, AND LOVING TO YOUR MIND
Start being aware of negative thoughts, write them down and then burn them. Replace them with reassuring positive thoughts. Use can instead of can’t. Of course you’re going to slip up but don’t let it define you.
“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”― Bruce Lee
DON’T TERRORIZE YOURSELF
Don’t terrify yourself with thoughts of what if, and I’ll fail if I do this or that. Your mind will trick you, with thoughts about the future but remember it is all in your head.
ACCEPT YOURSELF & FORGIVE YOURSELF
Accept yourself, flaws and all. Take some time to stand in front of the mirror and look at yourself in the eyes. If the love you feel for yourself isn’t at your strongest, allow it to grow. Look in the mirror and forgive yourself and say I love you. It might seem or feel funny the first couple of times but I promise you it is effective. Begin right away don’t wait for that special someone, don’t wait for approval of others all you need is yourself.
Self love, self-respect, self-worth. There is a reason they all start with “self”. You cannot find them in anyone else. — Unknown
I hope this post will help you on your journey to self-love, don’t ever give up on yourself. Good Luck