That will change the way you love yourself.
Self-care is something that I hold really close to my heart. When I started my blog I originally wanted to share my experiences with mental health. I would often torture myself with the way I let other people treat me, and walk all over me. When I had no love for myself. When I would see young girls dwelling on their mishaps, and wanting to change the way they looked. I was heartbroken. I want to see more young girls growing, and learning reaching their own definition of confidence, happiness, and self-love. That has always been my mission with starting this blog, and it will continue to be.
Self-love isn’t narcissistic it’s about appreciation of yourself.
I will be doing more post on mental health, but for now I wanted to share three acts of self-love that will transform the way you see yourself.
BE GOOD TO YOUR YOURSELF (SOUL FOOD)
Be gentle with yourself, speak kindly to yourself. Feed your mind, body, and soul good things. We often always remember that one negative comment or remark that was said to us. We let it stick with us until we start to believe it to be true. Being Mindful of what you are unconsciously telling yourself, Is so important. If you find yourself putting yourself down, being self-critical. Change your tune instead be self-encouraging show yourself some love. Always build yourself up rather than tearing yourself down.
“Build someone up. Put their insecurities to sleep. Remind them they’re worthy. Tell them they’re magical. Be a light in a too often dim world.”- Unknown
Then Remind yourself
Growing up I constantly felt like I wasn’t good enough, like I wasn’t working hard enough. Self-love was like a foreign concept to me, I never learned how to be good to myself, how to love myself. Self-love is all about loving and appreciating yourself for everything that you are, and everything you’re not. It’s not about being perfect; it’s about enjoying who you’ve be come. Listen to your body and soul, you are the only one who knows what will lead you to happiness. Some things you can do to feed your soul include; balance your chakras, practice compassion, meditate, and volunteer.
“Try and discover a passion that has no association to another person whatsoever. That way, whenever you feel the slightest bit lonely, you’ll have a companion in the form of whatever that interest may be. That’s why it is so important to fall in love with your life.”– Noor Shirazie
STOP TRYING TO BE PERFECT
“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”― John Steinbeck, East of Eden
This is one of my favorite quotes, a quote that I live by. When you have the desire to be perfect you unconsciously create a prison for yourself. If you are constantly stressing about being perfect, at some point you will never be satisfied with what you have accomplished. You will never feel like you are good enough, you will never measure up to the little voice in your head announcing you aren’t good enough. You’ll spend more time on your failures than your successes. If you can’t accept who you are, you will always feel miserable and empty.
There is no shame in wanting to grow, and become a better person. It is part of the beauty of life. While you are on your journey of becoming a better person. Sit back every now and then and be amazed by your growth. Oftentimes we don’t notice how far we have come, because we are so focused on the negative aspects of life.
Reflect on how much you have overcome; how much you have accomplished. Focus on the positive aspects of your life. Work on mastering the art of letting go the need to control all things. You will never be able to control every facet of your life, so just try your best to enjoy life. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, and look silly.
LISTEN TO YOUR EMOTIONS
Too often we put our emotions in a box, we put them aside because we are afraid to deal with them. Which in return causes us to feel uneasy and stressed. When we acknowledge what we are feeling, and learn to deal with them in a healthy way. We give ourselves the opportunity to be the best version of ourselves. I found this picture, and wanted to share. I have it saved on my phone, so I can reference what I’m feeling and better deal with it.
How do you practice self-love?